In the midst of separation and divorce, there’s a minefield of legislation to protect each others rights. When it comes to property and children and immediately after separation, that is what is focused on. How are we going to fairly split our property and how are we going to share custody of the children. Unfortunately in our circumstances, it’s messy and hard and up until now I really haven’t thought too much about anything else we shared.
What about extended family? What about pets? What about friends?
From experience, I have found that friends sort themselves out. They either are on your side, your former partners side or you lose them all together if your separation is particularly messy but then this week I received a phone call from my husbands best friend, best man in our wedding and the lines of “sides” in my argument are suddenly blurred when he spoke of how disappointed he is in my ex husband and how he would like to catch up and see the children.
Pets, with us it kind of sorted itself out. I moved into a rental and wasn’t allowed a dog, so I took the cat, he kept the dog. But now, when and how do I see our dog that was a big part of our family?
Extended family. My ex husbands nephew is turning 18 this weekend. This is a kid I’ve watched grow up, a kid who calls me Auntie. There are 9 nieces and nephews on his side of the family, once again 9 kids who called me Auntie, some of these younger kids I looked after as if they were my own. What happens to these kids? How and when do I see them when relations between my ex husband are strained?
Kirsty is the founder of That Noise Is Mine.
An established blogger, writer and business owner raising 4 children independently. Kirsty is determined to succeed in this new life forced upon her.