I lost myself again.
I didn’t even realise it until I’ve had time to sit back and reflect.
My friends and family knew I had lost myself. They heard the silence of unanswered text messages and phone calls. They saw the strain on my face, they were telling me I’d lost my sparkle and I was trying to convince them that I was happy.
Don’t get me wrong, there were some very happy moments and I don’t blame anyone but myself for being back in this position. I’m just surprised that I’m back here and so quickly. How did I go from someone who 12 months ago had fought and rebuilt and was learning my worth and self respect to here …… again!
Back to the drawing board. Back to focus on me again.
I need to learn my self worth and I need to set boundaries, enforce them and stick to it when people don’t treat me the way I deserve to be treated.
I want to practice more self care. I don’t know about you but I always put myself at the bottom of my “list” and I never reach the bottom of my “list”.
I’m sure I’m not the only person in this position. Do you take time out of your day to care for yourself? Do you know your worth? If someone disrespects you, what do you do?
Self respect and self worth stem from self care. If you don’t love yourself how on earth do you expect anyone else to.
What do you think about self care?
I recently surveyed some of my readers to find out what Self Care means to them and to see if they proritize themselves.
As a whole, everyone had the same idea on what self care is – it’s not only looking after yourself or treating yourself but making sure you actively engage in self care. One interesting response that stood out from Kathleen from the blog Life By Kathleen, although the term itself “self care” was something she was familiar with and something she engaged in without actively scheduling the time, it wasn’t until she began her IVF journey did she see the importance of self care on mental health.
Self care also looks very similar to everyone, it’s doing things that YOU enjoy. And that is the main idea – there is no point engaging in self care, say for example, getting a manicure and pedicure every month if you don’t have the money to spare or you dislike someone touching your feet. The key is to find something YOU enjoy. Something I enjoy, the next person may not.
Whilst most readers did take the time to look after themselves the majority did not incorporate self care into their daily routine. It is more something they do “when they get time” – which for some of us is never if we don’t actively schedule the time.
Self care has the same affect on all of us, it makes us feel relaxed and it helps us to be able to care for others that we need to. All of the respondents were parents so were all caring for other people as well as themselves.
One interesting point to note, some of the respondents are my personal friends and the ones that care for themselves are the ones who I have always admired the most for both the relationships they have with their selves and in one case in particular the relationship they have with their husband and children.
Join Me on this Journey
So after reflecting on where I am in life and how I incorporate self care into my daily routine I decided that I personally need to make some big changes. Let’s face it, if we don’t actively schedule the time for ourselves, chances are it’s not going to happen or at least not regularly enough for it to be of benefit.
I have developed a short and easy program for you to come on this journey with me. You don’t need to be a broken hearted lost soul like myself to sign up! The focus is not going to be on lost love. It’s going to be on you and caring for you. So no matter what your walk of life, what you do, who you are, or where you are, you are welcome here and you will be supported and loved.
There will be a couple of tasks sent every other day for the next month. Some of the tasks require no time or money to complete. Some consume a little more time or will need you to spend money. It’s up to you what you complete. I just wanted to make sure there was something for everyone.
Oh and it’s completely free. I’m not looking to make money. I just don’t want to feel like this anymore and I want to help others not feel like this either.
To sign up to the program enter your details below and you’ll then start receiving my emails.
Also join THIS Facebook group which will be incorporated in the emails. In this group, I’ll ask you from time to time what’s in your gratitude journal. What’s your peak and pit of the day, what you’ve learned, how you’re caring for yourself and how you’re going in general. Share if you want to or be a silent member and take strength from what others have achieved.
I have met some wonderful people through my blog and because of the topics covered we all actually have a lot in common. So let’s mingle in the Group and get to know each other more!
Whilst starting on a self care journey is a very personal thing and only you know what kind of care you need to give yourself let’s work together to make it a priority for each other by reminding each other that we ARE important and DESERVE our own love.
Kirsty is the founder of That Noise Is Mine.
An established blogger, writer and business owner raising 4 children independently. Kirsty is determined to succeed in this new life forced upon her.