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Death Simultaneously

August 21, 2017 By Christina Schwartz

Christina from House of Psych shares a thought provoking post on a topic we don’t normally discuss – death.

 

Death simultaneously is an emotion, an experience, and a thought process I’m too familiar with. Its the rapid change of a mental state from despair to delusional laughing, to crying yourself to sleep.

What is it about the death of another – that when you experience it, you start to relive every moment with that person while simultaneously imagining future moments they will be absent for?

Is it our brain sending a message to our heart in an attempt to avoid the denial phase of grief while simultaneously crushing it into a million pieces? You’ll miss some of the best days of my life.

What is it about the day before they die when you’re sitting at the end of the bed and waiting – You’re waiting, and silently hoping their pain ends soon while simultaneously trying to make the final moments together concrete in your memory.

Is it because all of a sudden we are reminded that forever has an ending? You think you have time but you don’t. You think you have more. You think you have forever, but you don’t.

What is it about death that makes you want to remember them alive right now while simultaneously knowing that this is not how they want to be remembered?

Is it because they want you to remember the times you looked up at them, not down?

What is it about an unexpected death that makes you think about their last few hours on earth while simultaneously thinking about the moment they left this world?

Is it our own internal and natural fear of death that leads us to think about today as just another day one second, then it becomes the worst day of our lives the next? You never think the last time is the last time.

What is it about death that leads you to find yourself remembering the good times and laughing at the memories while simultaneously planning a funeral and helping complete the perfect eulogy?

Is it because we’re taught to be thankful for the memories and trying to find comfort in knowing they’re in a better place? They would have stayed forever if they could.

What is it about death that suddenly makes you want to “live like you’re dying” while simultaneously knowing we’re all living to die anyway?

Is it because we want to believe that if we make the moments count it won’t hurt so much when it’s over? It’s going to hurt, like hell every day.

The thing about death whether it be anticipated or unexpected is that it leaves a hole in your heart but it creates a space in your mind. A space that forces you to face fear, relief, reality, and grief simultaneously. The fear was losing you, the relief is that you’re no longer in pain, the reality is living without you, and the grief is love with no place to go.

 

Christina Schwartz

This is not another “mom blog.” I’m opinionated, I cuss a little, and I like wine. I’m also a military Spouse and politics run deep in my home. I work full time with youth and adolescents that face severe and complex mental health issues. And lastly, I’m a full time student working on my Masters in substance abuse/mental health prevention science. Put all of that in one bag and you’ll understand my love for wine and a good convo! I promise, there is something for everyone.

https://houseofpsych.com/

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  1. Greg Dean says

    September 10, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    Thought provoking read.

    The older I get the more I understand that in just even one generation, and definitely in two generations, nothing I have done in this life will be known or remembered, except for the photos I leave on social media.

    And the issue of having no regrets, can all come down to how much money we can earn to fund those no-regret adventures. Some things are out of our hands.

    There are just a few arcs in our lives that will urge us to see, be and do all we can and realise how little time there is. One is divorce. The other is death. Both are about clawing back as much time and using that time as efficiently as possible.

    I am currently reading your blog while sitting in a little shop in a city in Siberia in Russia, because I chose to rid myself of all fears and take a chance on a big, wide adventure. And the journey has helped me improve my Russian language skills To learn another language should be on all of our bucket lists I think).

    Thanks for the insights!

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