2018, A New Year

2016 was one of the hardest years of my life. As the year came to a close I knew I wanted to make one final decision regarding my marriage.  I didn’t want to go into a new year with uncertainty.  I needed to make a decision – was I going to close the door and walk away or give it one more fight?

I decided to close the door and move forward and I was going to use the New Year as the first day of the rest of my life.

I didn’t want to see those numbers, 2016 on a calendar, on anything, ever again.  As the clock ticked over I celebrated.  I had made it.  I survived the most difficult year of my life and here I was in a new year ready to rebuild my life.

And rebuild is what I did.

Now all of a sudden we are here again, the end of the year and 2017 is about to turn to 2018.  This year there are no big decisions to be made and there is nothing really symbolic about the change from 2017 to 2018.  But there is still reflection and goals for the year ahead.

2017 was a year of closure.  Whilst I had made the decision to close the door on my failed marriage in 2016, real closure and growth came in 2017.

People are resilient and you can survive anything.  I know it doesn’t feel like it when you are in the depths of despair but YOU can survive anything!

The only thing you have control of is you and your reactions.  Nothing else.  I touched on this in my Christmas Vlog – some people are shitty people.  You can’t control or change that.  But you can control and change how you deal with these people.

Throughout your life you will find yourself in shitty situations, once again how YOU react and deal with this is the only thing you need to worry about.  Don’t stress about things you can’t change.

The beginning of a new year is a great time to reinvent yourself, to begin new adventures, to leave the past and mistakes of the previous year behind and to anyone on that journey I wish you the very best of luck. The journey to find yourself is sometimes easy but often complex and full of steps forward and backwards but in the end it is so worth it.  When you discover yourself and discover your purpose everything becomes clear and all the little pieces suddenly click into place.

There are still so many things I need to learn personally.  I am learning self worth, I am learning to say “No, that’s not what I want”. The thing is, once you know what you don’t want from life it’s easier to recognise the things you do want in people and situations and when you find it, you grab it and cherish it.

First and foremost in my life I am a mother.  2017 may have seemed like it was a selfish year for me but my children are and always have been my number 1 priority.  The growth in those 4 boys this past year has me beaming with pride.  We are a very close family and whilst I like to keep a certain amount of our lives private the older boys are looking forward to showing you some things they’ve been working on through my YouTube channel.

In 2017 I began studying again but this has been one area I have let slide.  I have organised myself a little better and look forward to dedicating more time to my studies after the summer break.

My business and my blog are going to grow.  I have clear directions, goals and plans in place to ensure that these flourish.

I have plans to write a book!

Mostly I am going to prove to myself that I can do it all.  Just because I am a woman, just because I am a mother to 4 children doesn’t mean that I can’t also be a successful writer and business woman, with hard work and persistence anything is possible and I am here to prove that.

2018 is the year I will fight for what is right.

To all of my readers and followers I wish you a very happy New Year.  I wish you all the best for the year ahead and hope that no matter where you are in life and no matter what  journey you are on that you find your peace and happiness.

Love your life, you only live it once.  Laugh.  Always laugh!

Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one – Brad Paisley

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