Heartbreak is consuming. It’s emotional and physical pain.
When someone close to you is going through heartbreak, your own heart breaks as well. To hear them excitedly talk about finding someone and then to see it all crashing down around them, you feel their sadness. You so desperately want to give them the space they need to navigate the path themselves, knowing that they will come to you when they are ready but you also want to hold their hand while they navigate the path to make sure they are ok. To make sure they are not alone.
Heartbreak is a grieving process and everyone handles it differently. That’s one thing you must remember, there is no right or wrong way to go through this but you must face it and go through it otherwise your heart won’t heal. It’s one step at a time, it’s crying, it’s getting angry, it’s staying in bed all day, it’s drinking too much, it’s random phone calls and text messages to friends, it’s painful, it’s feeling like you’re drowning, it’s losing everything. It’s a time to focus on you, it’s a time to look at your life and decide what you want. It’s one day realising that you haven’t thought about that other person for a while, it’s thinking about starting the search again.
Know that this is not forever. Know that everything happens for a reason. Know that in that moment in time when you were in love you were one of the lucky ones but also know that there is someone else even better to come. Know that happiness comes from within, you are in control of your happiness and don’t ever put it in the hands of someone else. Take some time out, stop searching, stop trying to find that person to connect to and get to know you and what makes you happy and when you are ready, find someone who compliments that, not someone who completes you. You are a whole person as you are.
You are still young, you have said to me many times – don’t rush things, plenty of people find love later in life. Listen to your own advice.
Know that I am only a phone call away if you need anything and next time I’m wrapping you in cotton wool to protect that beautiful sensitive heart and soul you have.