“Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.”
Do you ever wonder: why is life so difficult? Why can’t it be just smooth and easy? Why does it always have to be messy? But then again.. is it really chaotic? or… is it just you?
I’ve asked myself the same question more times than I can count with my fingers and I always get a different answer each time or sometimes even none at all.
It made me think. Maybe, I wasn’t meant to know the meaning of all these things that are happening to me or I just sucked at the art of living life.
There was something that I clearly did not understand, I did not get. Life was sending me a message, it was redirecting me to a different path but I kept resisting it because it’s not what I wanted. Each time I fought it, I failed and for every failure it took a piece of me until I was left with nothing.
I was so tired that I thought about ending my misery. There was clearly no fight left within me that I just stopped trying to do things my way. I gave up and just let the waves of life take me wherever it wanted.
It turned out to be the best decision I’ve ever made and here’s what I learned:
You Want To Be Miserable? Control Things That You Can’t.
There are things in life or in our current situation that we want to control or change. When things don’t go our way, we pout and we feel like the whole universe is conspiring against us. Well, it’s not.
The things that we have now in our lives whether we like it or not aren’t just placed there because the universe wants us to be miserable, it’s there temporarily for us to appreciate or teach us a lesson.
We make ourselves miserable if we try to control it or change it. The wisest thing to do is to accept it and embrace it willingly because soon enough, it will pass.
Playing The Victim Card Doesn’t Help Anyone, Not Even Ourselves
Before we became the strong person we are today, we were once weak. We can’t blame ourselves that at some point in our lives it seemed like life was bullying us and we just sat there all whiny and broken. Everyone of us may have been victims of circumstances, but that doesn’t mean we get to keep playing that card until we die.
Playing the victim isn’t only pitiful, it’s pathetic. We all know that’s not a good look on anyone. Everyone of us has experienced failures, loss or heartbreak and that’s how life knocks you out.
When you get knocked out, don’t just lay there and wait for someone to take pity on you. Stand up, dust yourself off and try again until you’re strong enough that anyone who tries to take you down will fall apart.
When Things Aren’t Clear, Don’t Be Afraid To Take A Step Back
Don’t you just hate it when things don’t make sense and the answers just don’t come to you? So you keep poking and prodding the problem hoping it’ll bleed out some kind of solution that will satisfy you, but you end up becoming even more clueless than we first started.
The truth is, the more we keep pushing ourselves to look closely, the more we won’t be able to find what we are looking for. We think that if we stop looking, we may never ever find it. But in reality, if we just become brave enough to take a step back to see the bigger picture that was forming in front of us, we’ll not only find the answers.. we will also achieve peace and clarity because what didn’t make sense up close, will make sense when you look at it from afar.
Be Clear About What You Want In Life And Don’t Be Afraid To Ask
Have you ever wondered why there are things that you want in life, but it seems impossible for you to have? Yeah, we’ve all been there. These things aren’t meant to be just a tease for us, we were meant to have it but then again, it’s not given to us because we aren’t ready to have it or we don’t deserve it yet.
We are all works in progress, but as we grow – the things that we truly want and need should be clear to us. If there’s one thing in your life that you can’t stop thinking about and it brings you inexplicable joy whenever it crosses your mind, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Because if you’re clear about what you want and you are truly sure about it, life will not think twice about giving it to you.
Challenges Hone Us To Become Better People
There are times that I think life likes to play a cruel trick on me. Throwing problems my way all the time, I can’t even get a day off! I hated trials and tribulations, I hated challenges.. But the thing is, problems weren’t given to us because the universe just likes to yank our chains. These challenges were designed to make us better versions of ourselves. Smarter, wiser and stronger. Life doesn’t give us challenges we can’t take. This reminds me of a quote that said “we were given these mountains to show everyone that we can move it.“
So what I am trying to say is, the bigger the problem the more you should be flattered. it means that God, life, the universe thinks you’re a badass and you can take it on even with your eyes closed.
If we aim to live a simple life where unnecessary complications don’t exist, we are asking for a boring life. Problems, complications, trials and tribulations make life difficult, but interesting and if we overcome them – it can turn into powerful stories that can help other people conquer it.
So is life difficult? Frustrating? Messy? Yes, it can be but these are also the factors that make it interesting. Is life messy because of you? Yes, it can be and it also depends on our mindset. Challenges can be obstacles or it can be opportunities for growth, it all depends on how we choose to see it.
Wondering whether life is chaotic or pleasant is a normal thing to do, everyone asks that but the better question that we should be asking is – what if life decides to play it’s little game with you – will you let it defeat you? or will you be brave enough to take on the challenge and beat it?
LD Fleming is a starving young artist who is passionate about helping people solve their love problems on her free time. She likes to write relationship tips and advice on personal growth/self-improvement. Check out her website at www.ldfleming.com or you can also find her on facebook : www.facebook.com/writerldfleming